It might just be worth my noting here, for posterity as well as myself, that it is sometimes disturbingly, depressingly easy to have sex in New York if you're a straight girl able to steel yourself to play the game. And it's incredibly hard to find a boyfriend once you realize that's what you want.
In some ways, my problem is likely that I know too much about what it's like to be with too many different people. I have a couple different types and the important parts don't transfer.
Going to try to stop thinking about this right now, though.